‘Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves’. (Surah Ra’d v11)
I used to read this ayah and struggle to understand the wisdom of it. I used to think why should I change, I’m not the one with the problem. I thought, if only my husband would change, then my life would be better. If my children listened, then my life would be easier. It’s others that need to change.
So I dismissed the suggestion of looking at changing myself and kept focusing on how would I change others. I spent most of my days consumed in thinking…
how do I get them to see what I see,
understand where I’m coming from,
give me what I need,
do things a certain way so that all of our lives are easier.
I have to tell you, this just led to a lot of heartache and disappointment because no matter how hard I tried to change things, others just did what they were used to doing anyway.
My efforts fell on deaf ears and I was left feel hopeless that my happiness in the hands of others and since they were not changing, I was never going to be happy. You can imagine that left me in a very dark place and I became resentful towards my family and demotivated to move forward in my life.
Putting our happiness in the hands of others, makes us bystanders in our own lives. We end up watching our life unfold and yet there is nothing we can do about it.
Have you ever felt like this?
What I want to tell you my sister is this is exactly the opposite of how Allah swt wants us to feel when He swt revealed that ayah above in Surah Ra’d for us.
He swt does not want you to feel helpless or hopeless. With Allah swt by your side, you are never alone, never stuck and never a bystander.
You are fully in control of your life, fully able to change everything that you don’t like about your life, fully able to change your relationships and how others treat you, fully able to create happiness, peace and contentment independent of what others do.
In this ayah, Allah swt is telling you, He swt will change the things that you’re not in control of as long as you focus on changing what you’re in control of. So everything will change for you and you are in the driving seat of that change.
This is exactly how I help my clients, I help them to take control of their lives, their relationships, their results and their happiness. I help them take the driving seat of their lives and create the changes they want even if no one else in their family sees their needs or supports their desire for change.
So if you want to take control of the direction of your life and stop being a bystander watching your life pass you by, then come and join me on one of my paid programs. The help you get on the inside is carefully designed and delivered to get you the most amazing results, in the shortest time possible. I’m a Results Coach. I’m here to get you Results. This is the Coaching Program that you cannot fail!
