One of my former clients used to call herself Mumm-ra. Do you remember her from The Thundercats cartoon?
She was the scary villain and she roared so much that even a cartoon would become scary.
If you don’t remember her, look her up and ask yourself is that what your children see when you shout?
So my client, ‘Mummy Mumm-ra’ had pushed kids so far away with her shouting that they would walk out the room every time she walked in.
No one wanted to put up with ‘Mummy Mumm-ra, not even her husband.
So I helped her to take control of her emotions first then her parenting, second. We need our children to listen to us, but not because we’re scary and shouty.
Shouting is a useful tool, if
– Used once in a blue moon,
– To get your children’s attention,
– It’s short and sweet,
– WITHOUT anger or frustration, and
– Done in a calm, non-scary way.
If this is how you use shouting, then it’s simply a megaphone for when you’re in a noisy environment or you need to grab your children’s attention.
Used in the right way, from the right emotions and it’s effective.
Used in the wrong way, from the wrong emotions and it’s counter-productive.
Here’s when shouting doesn’t work…
– Intended to MAKE THEM do something.
– Everyday or everyday couple of days
– Bellowing for so long from the top of your lungs until your throat hurts
– You’re ranting until even you don’t know what you’re saying anymore
– You’re so angry that it induces fear in your child.
When shouting is used from the wrong emotions on a regular basis, it pushes your child to shut down, withdraw or become angry at you. Just like what happened with ‘’Mummy Mumm-ra’.
Now she uses those lungs as a megaphone every once in a while instead. If in loud places or as a shock factor to help grab her children’s attention.
She’s calm and yet
– her children listen to her more than ever.
– they tidy up before she has to ask.
– they stopped walking away from her.
– they are always looking for her to talk to, confide in, ask her advice.
– She has become a ‘Mummy Magnet’ instead.
I help all my clients make this transformation, using my 8-step Stop shouting blueprint.
By week 6, they’ve stopped losing control and shouting.
By week 9, they are parenting from a naturally calm place.
By week 16, they are in control of their parenting – their kids listen HAPPILY.
We then go to work to make this change permanent …
…..(unless you need a megaphone 
then it’s ok to still shout!)
then it’s ok to still shout!)
So if you too would like my help to go from being a Mummy Mumm-ra to becoming a Mummy Magnet, then you should book a call with me.
Let’s have a quick chat, find out a little more about what’s bringing out the Mumm-ra in you and how my 8-step blueprint can work for you.
If it makes sense for us to work together, I’ll then extend an invitation for you to join me.
I’ll see you on that call?
-Amina ‘Mummy Magnet maker’ Sayed-Hossen
