Why My Clients Love Their Happy Home Journey

The Mother who always shouting at her ‘Problem Child’

On my Happy Home journey with Coach Amina, not just me but my whole family transformed!

The Turning Point

“Before joining sister Amina on her Happy Home Journey, things had escalated so much with my teenage son, that I remember the moment I realised things had gone too far now and I needed help. One evening, whilst kissing all my children at night, I passed his room and thought, I don’t want to see him. I don’t want to talk to him. And I just went downstairs. I was no longer able to show him affection. Our relationship had completely broken down. We didn’t look for each other anymore. This was the turning point for me because I didn’t want things to be like this with him, I wanted to be close to my son.

The Problem Child

The problem was that he that he didn’t listen. He was my problem child. He just didn’t listen. I think that was my line to him growing up, ‘You just don’t listen. Why don’t you listen? Just listen to me.’ He constantly made us late when we were going out. We were constantly shouting at him. He started shouting back. I used to think ‘what’s wrong with him!’

We Were Always Shouting

Because there was constant shouting. I was shouting, and when my husband would walk through the door, he would start shouting because he would be trying to help me. Our home was not a happy one. It was a very painful time.

Nothing Was Working

Me and my husband tried lots of things to change things but nothing worked. Our son started purposely showing us that he wouldn’t do what we asked and would do things when he decided to. Deep down, I knew he was hurting. I was hurting. I just wanted him to be happy and I didn’t want to shout anymore. It was affecting the whole family.

Things Immediately Started To Change

After joining this journey, things started to really shift for me as I learnt how to stop shouting, how to deal with my son and how to bring out the best in him and the best in me. Sister Amina gave me the right advice, coached me through the process and helped me. And it was the best thing for me and my son, definitely. I applied everything that I learnt from the sessions. I was taking it all in like a sponge. I maximised everything I got from the lessons by really applying it, so things changed very quickly for me.

My Son Started To Listen

I stopped shouting. I became a calm and nurturing mum. I was different in how I saw him, how I felt about him, how I reacted and spoke to him and how I approached him, I changed. Then one day, he just came to me and he just hugged me and it was just what I what I wanted for so long to be close to him again. The impossible had happened alhamdullilah and he started getting to school on time, cleaning his room by himself and doing the things I asked of him without resistance. I am really emotional just thinking about it.

My Life Started To Change Too

Even though I joined for my child, everything in my life changed and my family changed for the better.

Once I actually started, it was the surprising thing for me to realise that I’ve lost who I was in my other roles as a wife, mother daughter and daughter-in-law. As I started growing myself, repairing me, gaining confidence, I started seeing me and because of that, my family dynamics changed because my family started seeing me too. It was amazing.

My Marriage Massively Improved

Another great result from the journey was that my relationship with my husband improved massively, I wasn’t expecting that. I knew we had problems but I was not dealing with it. I was just focused on the kids. Now things are so different alhamdullilah and we are so connected and we have overcome our disconnect and he is now looking for me a lot and sits with me, eats with me, talks to me and supports me in my life too whereas before we were so divided. He was on his own in one room and I was with the kids in the other room. I used to think of it as us and him. It was a divided home.

I Changed, I Became Strong and Confident

Another big turning point for me was realising that there was nothing wrong with me and realising that there was nothing wrong with my son. I just needed to learn how to parent him effectively and how to manage my emotions when challenged and help him to do the same. Realising that there was nothing wrong with me was a huge internal shift for me that really gave me confidence and unlocked the leader within me. I don’t know how else to describe it. I felt empowered, I felt strong. I felt like a strong, confident woman. It was a quiet, strong confidence that I felt deep inside my heart.

I then put myself forward to chair the PTA and organise events. This was huge for me because I used to never speak in public or even in large family gatherings. I didn’t like to talk. I started to change, it was so powerful. Suddenly, I realised that I am beautiful inside and out. I have confidence. I can lead. I can look after my family. And everything became possible. Everything in my mind became possible and it just became easy after that.

I Started Raising Leaders

Now I have become a leader in my life and I want to do good and have impact. Even with my children, I know I’m raising my children to lead. Instead of telling them like I used to ‘why do you want to do that.’ But now I’m like, no, let’s go. Now I’m pushing my children. We’ve got to be leaders. Come on. My mindset has completely changed.

We are all Happy. I have a Happy Home.

This coaching journey with Sister Amina is brilliant, absolutely brilliant, one of the best things I’ve ever invested in my life. I now have a Happy Home. We are all happy. We enjoy spending time together as a family now. I am no longer a shouty mum and even after finishing the journey with Amina, a year later, I have not gone back to how things were. We will never go back there again.

Life Keeps Getting Better With These Tools

Even after the journey’s finished, my home is still growing. It’s still growing. It’s still getting stronger. It’s still getting happier. The journey continues. Once you finish, your journey continues and it improves everything in your life. This is a lifetime investment. You’re paying for life skills.

I knew I had to do this. I had to do this. Otherwise I was going to lose my child. I was losing my child. I had to do this. But absolutely, hands down, the results were even better, more than I expected. This is definitely a lifetime investment, I don’t think you can put a price on that.”

Sister Usma

The Mother who found strenght she never thougth she had

On my Happy Home journey with Coach Amina, my life transformed beyond what I thought was ever possible!

My Struggles

When I joined, I was struggling with severe depression after having a still birth and unable to process my grief, I was having marital problems because my husband and I were both stuck in dealing with our grief and loss differently and it was causing arguments and distance between us. I was ready to walk away.

And whilst working on these issues with Amina, my husband suffered an injury and become bed bound for several months. This led to his own depression and anxiety because at the same time, my mother in law was also diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Things became too much and I was living with intense stress, overwhelming and anxiety and my own health started deteriorating as I started to get heart palpitations, even though I’m still relatively young.

My Mind

You would think that from where I was to having to deal with these trial as well, I would have broken but I’m so grateful to Allah for sending me on this journey with Amina because through it, I found a strength I never knew I had.  Coming through this journey and seeing that, I could get through the intensity of it all and still be able to find peace and support my family through these challenging times was a huge, eye-opener and a huge shift for me of what I could really handle and who I really was.

Amina had shown me that my mind was a powerful tool that I could use to overcome all of my challenges and still show up for my family when they were struggling too.

I am so much more peaceful alhamdullilah.

My Marriage

Things are so much better with my husband alhamdullilah. My husband and I have stopped arguing, and we’ve been able to reconnect again whereas before we were on the brink of separation. We are not pushing each other away anymore. He nows asks for my advice and support. Things have changed so much alhamdullilah.

My Parenting

Even through all of this, I have become a better mother for my children, able to stop shouting and respond to their challenges and needs in a way that actually addresses the issues they are having. I have learnt how to help my children cope with their own trials, their loss, their struggles at school and helping them flourish alhamdullilah through all of this. 

My 8 year old son is now flourishing in his academics, his Quran study and his sporting passions and is doing so well alhamdullilah. I’ve been able to help him become motivated to succeed in his life even at such a young age and even through all of these trials alhamdullilah. I have also learnt how to help him connect deeply with Allah swt and have tawakul in Allah through his own challenges alhamdullilah. My daughter is still a toddler but I now have the tools and understanding to start building these foundations from the beginning.

Success, Happiness & Impact

Definitely. I think that for me learning how to overcome grief and depression, how to lead my family through our trials, how to stay strong and present, how to stay out of my fears, worries and anxieties and how to thrive in my trials not just survive, how to be grateful and not just see my problems and how to be there for my family, deeply connect and understanding how to give myself and my family what we all needed were key steps on this journey. The greatest tool of all was how to use my mind in a powerful way to solve all of my challenges and grow myself and my family into a strong family alhamdullilah.

Honestly, this coaching journey has been amazing. I wish and pray that the world would do this.  I’m so grateful to you Amina, you’ve been amazing. May Allah swt reward you for all your effort, give you and your family the highest station in Jannah. Thank you for never giving up on me when I was giving up on myself.

Sister Shabina

My son had stopped talking to me

Before joining the Happy Home Program, my son had stopped talking to us. He would lock himself in his room and not engage with the family at all. He decided not to go to university and spend his days sleeping instead. We were  extremely worried and didn’t know how to bring him back and overcome the distance between us.

I got my son back

On joining the Happy Home program, I learnt how to reconnect and repair my relationship with my son, how to overcome the problems and distance between us. He started talking to us again, coming downstairs and even eating with us. I came to understand how our good intentioned parenting had led him to feel like a complete failure unable to meet our expectations of him. I learnt how to nurture his self-belief and take the pressure that he felt off of him and help him to start moving forward in his life again. We’ve started spending time together and cooking together and I’m so happy to have my son back alhamdulilah. I thought I had lost him for good.

My Whole Parenting Changed

Not only did I get my son back which was amazing and more than I could hope for, but I have become closer to all my other children too. I learnt how to change my parenting approach with my other children too so that I’ve stopped shouting and nagging them and they now listen to me and respect me and have they stopped bickering between them.

The Summer Holidays

Honestly, I used to dread it before. I used to have such anxiety. I remember when I had such anxiety before, I would almost wake up with panic attacks. It’s like, oh my gosh, how am I gonna deal with this? All this fighting and squabbling, demanding more and more screens. How am I gonna do all this?

My Children Listen

Now that I have built a strong relationship with my children, they are accepting what I say. The screen time is only for a certain period of time and they value it and they respect it and they love the new routine and it’s so great.

​My Husband Can’t Believe It

And recently, my husband asked me, how was your day? How are the kids? I’m like, the kids are amazing. And he looked at me like, you know, it’s the first time I ever heard you say that. Wow, look at that, I’m so surprised. I’m like, yeah, I’m feeling it!

​I’m helping my children with their issues

And I know, of course they are gonna have moments where they do things that annoy you, but it’s okay because it’s children being children and you know what, I’m helping them overcome those things as well.

One of my daughters, she hated maths because she had such low confidence in maths and I helped her with that and now she looks forward to it. She’s enjoying learning. It’s like wow she has started believing in herself and I was able to help her with that alhamdullilah.

​My Confidence Is Felt

They’re taking me so seriously, it’s so nice. They listen to me now because they see that I’m leading and they respect that and they listen carefully to what I have to say. It’s no longer she doesn’t know what she’s doing, she’s just old. It’s none of that anymore.

I can’t believe how much I’ve changed and how much I enjoy raising parenting my kids, alhamdullilah.

Sister A

My son wanted to leave home because I was overprotective

‘When I first joined Sister Amina, my children were disconnected from us because they complained that we were too controlling and restrictive. My daughter had social anxiety and my son couldn’t wait to leave home and experience freedom. 

I myself had social anxiety and was very worried about what my children would be exposed to outside the home. As a result, I had become overprotective and was starting to lose my children. Alhamdullilah, I have reconnected with my children and my son no longer wants to leave home to experience freedom and my daughter has now overcome her anxiety and is confidently going out into the world and taking opportunities that come her way. 

I have also been able to overcome my own anxiety and fears of social pressure and exposure and prepare my children to become strong and confident in their identity as Muslims, instead of holding them back for fear that they wouldn’t be strong enough to cope. 

Alhamdulillah over my 20 years of motherhood I have been to many different types of parenting classes and even attended Islamic ones too. Whilst they were all good in their own ways I didn’t feel that they were helping long term or that I stuck to anything I learnt.

Coming onto the Happy Home Journey by far is the best Ma shaa Allah and it helps with all aspects of life, not just parenting such as my own personal struggles and all of my other relationships which is a bonus. I’m so grateful Alhamdulillah I took the step to join. It’s truly changed us as a family and my husband and I are different parents to who we were last year subhanAllah because I shared everything I learnt with him and he really benefitted too.

We have learnt so much, our thinking is so much better and positive and we are always solution focused and the reason why I joined in the first place I got help with but alhamdulillah I got so much more then I had expected.

The most important thing I am hugely grateful to you Sister Amina for helping me build a better and stronger connection with Allah swt.  You have taught me so much over the sessions sis I am forever grateful to you 🤲🏼. May Allah swt reward you in abundance ameen JazakAllah khair ❤️❤️ It really cements the beauty of our Deen and the Mercy and the Generosity of our Rabb that he hasn’t left us alone. He has given us everything we need and it comes from within subhanAllah.’

Sister S

My Husband was never home

I wanted to tell you how grateful I am that Allah swt blessed me with meeting you and for all your knowledge, help, guidance and advice to help me through my most difficult life problems.

You will not believe it – my husband who used to go out all night several nights a week has not gone out for months at night. The last time he went was in November and he told me he wanted to change his bad habit of being out at those hours – and alhamdulilah he has been home every night since then. In fact, even when he was home in those days, he would sleep in his own room and I would sleep with the kids- now the kids sleep in their own room and I share a room with him.

Alhamdulillah for Allah’s mercy, Alhamdulillah my view of Allah has changed, I used to always worry about being punished and had the wrong view that Allah swt was waiting for me to make a mistake or sin so I could go through trials, but my view has changed. SubhanAllah our Lord is SO Merciful and Loving. Every trial I have gone through, I have learned so much and come out wiser and stronger. What I thought I couldn’t handle, I can. Alhamdulillah and this is because of your easy to understand guidance.

I remember watching so many TED talk type of videos and even looking at presentations by many life coaches and imams and counsellors looking for help – nothing matched the benefits I got from your one-on-one and group coaching style. Nothing comes even close sis- you really understood and every time I brought up something, you helped me with my emotions. Sis you are an answer to duas for all of us. Allah swt has blessed you with an amazing gift – JazakAllah for using your gift to help us all with our struggles.’

Sister Aisha

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‘I HIT MY LOWEST POINT’

“When I came to Amina I was in a right state. Being on this journey has been as if someone has removed the blindfold of my eyes. I came from a place of so much pressure and trauma, I used to vomit to make self feel better.  When I would have a “bad day” that bad day would last (and I kid you not) for about 3 weeks. I was miserable. I had no connection with anyone. I hated my life. I used to have suicidal thoughts but I don’t think I’ve told people that before. I had a quite horrible ending to my marriage. It was the last 3 years of my marriage and things were just getting worse and worse. I reached 41kg and the doctors told me that if I lost any more weight,  my muscles would give up on me and I wouldn’t be mobile.

 It’s been a year since my divorce and I’m now 51 kg. I’ve stopped vomiting. I have a better relationship with my children now then EVER. Before I used to just always scream in their faces and hit them. But now there’s more understanding and bonding especially with my eldest. I’m able to smile and feel blessed. I’m able to cry from gratitude to Allah for giving me and my children a second chance in life.

The changes have been drastic for me. I’m so, so grateful to Amina for helping me find my way back.“

Maryam, Dunstable

‘HOW A PARENTING COURSE CHANGED MY LIFE’

“The Happy Home Parenting sessions were invaluable and really mind-blowing. I realised that I had always put my needs, thoughts and feelings at the centre of dealing with my children and had placed unachievable expectations on them. Sister Amina helped me at a time when I was stressed about every minute and insignificant detail. The strategies I learnt were life-changing because when implemented correctly, the weight literally fell from my shoulders. This course is a must for every parent. Not only does it help you, but it helps your children and family and ultimately, a happy home is a blessed one!”

Farah, Essex

‘I FOUND THE MISSING LINK, I’M NOT BROKEN’

“My journey with sister Amina literally has been that missing link – the piece in the puzzle that as soon as it went in, gave me the complete picture without me needing to fix or mend myself. I was in a bad situation and had over the years turned to different healing modalities and got certified in them too. They didn’t give me the inner peace I was looking for so I began to see myself as flawed. I began to ‘feel’ more and more broken, soulless and to be honest, abandoned and alone. I was being told too that it’s through being broken that we ‘heal’ and when we accept that peace will come. But it simply doesn’t.

Because by trying to heal by accepting that you are broken can never fully heal you. I was going down a spiral of despair and I was losing my connection with Allah, even feeling abandoned by Allah. On my first meeting with Amina, I had a list of questions and even theories that I wanted to go over to help me heal. Sr Amina looked at me over our breakfast and simply said you can never be broken so you don’t need to heal. That was it – the missing piece! Things changed for me profoundly when this entered my consciousness. I didn’t need to do my long time line therapy and relive old memories!

With this realisation came liberation and the biggest takeaway for me was knowing who I actually was – Allah had created me as His Servant- this was a cloak of honour I had never appreciated until now. Understanding Islamic Psychology behind all this has been the cherry on the cake for me. Connecting to Allah through His Divine Attributes and knowing the power of asking Him through your duas is another gem! There is still so much more to say but i cant do it justice in this small window!” 

 Shahida, London

‘I HAVE A DEEPER CONNECTION WITH MY SON’

“I came on this course so that I could connect better with my son.  A year later, I have a deeper connection with Allah (swt), myself and my son. This just goes to show how much you take away when you embark on a journey with Sister Amina. She is an engaging, approachable and honest coach who will guide you through all the difficult alleys that you may struggle to navigate on your own.  I haven’t just learnt a lot in my time with Sr Amina, I have grown so, so much. Through my journey with Sr Amina, I went from really struggling to remain patient with my children to better understanding myself and my relationship with my son.  I am calmer, more intentional and more present. This course is so much more than a course; it’s a journey of growth and it has transformed my thinking, my parenting and my relationship with Allah swt.”

 Rocksanara, London

‘I HAD A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING’

“The Connecting With Allah Course is an amazing eye-opener on how to live your life to your full potential. Motivational and Inspirational. I came away with self-belief that anything is possible with Allah’s permission. Its believing in yourself and taking action. Its given me an awakening on how to live my life through effort and having a deep connection with Allah (swt). To worship Allah knowing that He sees us; having now seen this at a deeper level has changed how I see life itself”.

Seema, London

 

 

‘I DISCOVERED MYSELF AND MY CHILD’

“I am really thankful for having attending this parenting course. I didn’t know what to expect from this course. It has definitely been thought-provoking and interesting. I have already been sharing what I have learnt to my sister who has children. I have definitely learned more about myself and my children. I am now trying to listen more and be there with them in reality rather than being in the same room and being on the phone and pretend I’m listening. Giving my children a little quality time every day is definitely paying off.”

 Maria, Ipswich

  

‘I LEARNT HOW TO STAY CALM’

“Sister Amina is an engaging teacher who uses real examples and explains concepts in an easy to understand manner. I knew I was losing my temper too quickly and not being the best version of myself, but couldn’t work out how to remain calm. Having just started working with Amina, it is the beginning of a transformation to understand myself and my child. By looking past the behaviours to understand my child’s motivations and chain reactions, this has helped me to self-control and manage situations better.”

 Farah, London

 

 

‘MY MIND WAS FREED’  

“The Ramadan Retreat was an amazing opportunity to get away and reconnect with one’s own self and to reconnect with Allah. To think that we limit ourselves in our own lives due to our thoughts is frightening but Amina talked us through how to free our minds of insignificant, irrelevant and damaging thoughts. The most wonderful thing was the connection with Allah when your mind was cleared and free from thoughts. Alhamdullilah”

Amina, Luton

 

 

‘MY CHILDREN ARE HAPPIER’ 

“Thank you for this course. We have a more calm and positive atmosphere at home and not feel so stressed out all the time.  I’m more calm and understanding, I now listen to my children more and find out what has happened rather then saying who did that. I’ve noticed them to be more calm and gentle with each other. Also more love and affection between them as siblings.  I feel confident and I know I can do it now. I know myself a little better as well. I appreciate my children a lot more. I’m more calm and relaxed, I don’t shout as much and definitely notice my children are more happy. My sister and husband have noticed that I’m more positive and relaxed.”

Saima, Ipswich

 

 

 ‘I DISCOVERED MY CONNECTION WITH ALLAH’

“The Connecting With Allah (swt) Course was a truly unique and inspiring day! I felt cleansed when the barriers, fogginess and obstacles were stripped away leaving a pure and peaceful connection with Allah (swt). Alhamdullilah, the course has shown me that being present in the moment with Allah (swt) is all I need to achieve anything and everything. The day made me want to present the best version of myself to my Lord at all times but also made me realise that Allah (swt) is always available to me.  Learning how to tune in to that connection is a blessing that I will forever be grateful for and I cannot recommend this course highly enough…a life-changing experience that you will wish you’d had much, much before.” 

Farah, Essex

 

 

‘I HAD A DEEP SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE’ 

“The Connecting with Allah course helped me so much in understanding how to be close to Allah. It was a very deep spiritual experience to understand how to actually obtain taqwa, khushoo and ihsan. If you are flooded by your thoughts and feelings, I recommend that you join Sr Amina’s coaching programme.”

Shakira, Abbot’s Langley

 

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