On my Happy Home journey with Coach Amina, my life transformed beyond what I thought was ever possible!

My Struggles

When I joined, I was struggling with severe depression after having a still birth and unable to process my grief, I was having marital problems because my husband and I were both stuck in dealing with our grief and loss differently and it was causing arguments and distance between us. I was ready to walk away.

And whilst working on these issues with Amina, my husband suffered an injury and become bed bound for several months. This led to his own depression and anxiety because at the same time, my mother in law was also diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Things became too much and I was living with intense stress, overwhelming and anxiety and my own health started deteriorating as I started to get heart palpitations, even though I’m still relatively young.

My Mind

You would think that from where I was to having to deal with these trial as well, I would have broken but I’m so grateful to Allah for sending me on this journey with Amina because through it, I found a strength I never knew I had.  Coming through this journey and seeing that, I could get through the intensity of it all and still be able to find peace and support my family through these challenging times was a huge, eye-opener and a huge shift for me of what I could really handle and who I really was.

Amina had shown me that my mind was a powerful tool that I could use to overcome all of my challenges and still show up for my family when they were struggling too.

I am so much more peaceful alhamdullilah.

My Marriage

Things are so much better with my husband alhamdullilah. My husband and I have stopped arguing, and we’ve been able to reconnect again whereas before we were on the brink of separation. We are not pushing each other away anymore. He nows asks for my advice and support. Things have changed so much alhamdullilah.

My Parenting

Even through all of this, I have become a better mother for my children, able to stop shouting and respond to their challenges and needs in a way that actually addresses the issues they are having. I have learnt how to help my children cope with their own trials, their loss, their struggles at school and helping them flourish alhamdullilah through all of this. 

My 8 year old son is now flourishing in his academics, his Quran study and his sporting passions and is doing so well alhamdullilah. I’ve been able to help him become motivated to succeed in his life even at such a young age and even through all of these trials alhamdullilah. I have also learnt how to help him connect deeply with Allah swt and have tawakul in Allah through his own challenges alhamdullilah. My daughter is still a toddler but I now have the tools and understanding to start building these foundations from the beginning.

Success, Happiness & Impact

Definitely. I think that for me learning how to overcome grief and depression, how to lead my family through our trials, how to stay strong and present, how to stay out of my fears, worries and anxieties and how to thrive in my trials not just survive, how to be grateful and not just see my problems and how to be there for my family, deeply connect and understanding how to give myself and my family what we all needed were key steps on this journey. The greatest tool of all was how to use my mind in a powerful way to solve all of my challenges and grow myself and my family into a strong family alhamdullilah.

Honestly, this coaching journey has been amazing. I wish and pray that the world would do this.  I’m so grateful to you Amina, you’ve been amazing. May Allah swt reward you for all your effort, give you and your family the highest station in Jannah. Thank you for never giving up on me when I was giving up on myself.

I can’t believe I’m enjoying the summer holidays!

The Summer Holidays

Honestly, I used to dread it before. I used to have such anxiety. I remember when I had such anxiety before, I would almost wake up with panic attacks. It’s like, oh my gosh, how am I gonna deal with this? All this fighting and squabbling, demanding more and more screens. How am I gonna do all this?

My Children Listen

Now that I have built a strong relationship with my children, they are accepting what I say. The screen time is only for a certain period of time and they value it and they respect it and they love the new routine and it’s so great.

​My Husband Can’t Believe It

And recently, my husband asked me, how was your day? How are the kids? I’m like, the kids are amazing. And he looked at me like, you know, it’s the first time I ever heard you say that. Wow, look at that, I’m so surprised. I’m like, yeah, I’m feeling it!

​I’m helping my children with their issues

And I know, of course they are gonna have moments where they do things that annoy you, but it’s okay because it’s children being children and you know what, I’m helping them overcome those things as well.

One of my daughters, she hated maths because she had such low confidence in maths and I helped her with that and now she looks forward to it. She’s enjoying learning. It’s like wow she has started believing in herself and I was able to help her with that alhamdullilah.

​My Confidence Is Felt

They’re taking me so seriously, it’s so nice. They listen to me now because they see that I’m leading and they respect that and they listen carefully to what I have to say. It’s no longer she doesn’t know what she’s doing, she’s just old. It’s none of that anymore.

I can’t believe how much I’ve changed and how much I enjoy raising parenting my kids, alhamdullilah.

On my Happy Home journey with Coach Amina, not just me but my whole family transformed!

The Turning Point

“Before joining sister Amina on her Happy Home Journey, things had escalated so much with my teenage son, that I remember the moment I realised things had gone too far now and I needed help. One evening, whilst kissing all my children at night, I passed his room and thought, I don’t want to see him. I don’t want to talk to him. And I just went downstairs. I was no longer able to show him affection. Our relationship had completely broken down. We didn’t look for each other anymore. This was the turning point for me because I didn’t want things to be like this with him, I wanted to be close to my son.

The Problem Child

The problem was that he that he didn’t listen. He was my problem child. He just didn’t listen. I think that was my line to him growing up, ‘You just don’t listen. Why don’t you listen? Just listen to me.’ He constantly made us late when we were going out. We were constantly shouting at him. He started shouting back. I used to think ‘what’s wrong with him!’

We Were Always Shouting

Because there was constant shouting. I was shouting, and when my husband would walk through the door, he would start shouting because he would be trying to help me. Our home was not a happy one. It was a very painful time.

Nothing Was Working

Me and my husband tried lots of things to change things but nothing worked. Our son started purposely showing us that he wouldn’t do what we asked and would do things when he decided to. Deep down, I knew he was hurting. I was hurting. I just wanted him to be happy and I didn’t want to shout anymore. It was affecting the whole family.

Things Immediately Started To Change

After joining this journey, things started to really shift for me as I learnt how to stop shouting, how to deal with my son and how to bring out the best in him and the best in me. Sister Amina gave me the right advice, coached me through the process and helped me. And it was the best thing for me and my son, definitely. I applied everything that I learnt from the sessions. I was taking it all in like a sponge. I maximised everything I got from the lessons by really applying it, so things changed very quickly for me.

My Son Started To Listen

I stopped shouting. I became a calm and nurturing mum. I was different in how I saw him, how I felt about him, how I reacted and spoke to him and how I approached him, I changed. Then one day, he just came to me and he just hugged me and it was just what I what I wanted for so long to be close to him again. The impossible had happened alhamdullilah and he started getting to school on time, cleaning his room by himself and doing the things I asked of him without resistance. I am really emotional just thinking about it.

My Life Started To Change Too

Even though I joined for my child, everything in my life changed and my family changed for the better.

Once I actually started, it was the surprising thing for me to realise that I’ve lost who I was in my other roles as a wife, mother daughter and daughter-in-law. As I started growing myself, repairing me, gaining confidence, I started seeing me and because of that, my family dynamics changed because my family started seeing me too. It was amazing.

My Marriage Massively Improved

Another great result from the journey was that my relationship with my husband improved massively, I wasn’t expecting that. I knew we had problems but I was not dealing with it. I was just focused on the kids. Now things are so different alhamdullilah and we are so connected and we have overcome our disconnect and he is now looking for me a lot and sits with me, eats with me, talks to me and supports me in my life too whereas before we were so divided. He was on his own in one room and I was with the kids in the other room. I used to think of it as us and him. It was a divided home.

I Changed, I Became Strong and Confident

Another big turning point for me was realising that there was nothing wrong with me and realising that there was nothing wrong with my son. I just needed to learn how to parent him effectively and how to manage my emotions when challenged and help him to do the same. Realising that there was nothing wrong with me was a huge internal shift for me that really gave me confidence and unlocked the leader within me. I don’t know how else to describe it. I felt empowered, I felt strong. I felt like a strong, confident woman. It was a quiet, strong confidence that I felt deep inside my heart.

I then put myself forward to chair the PTA and organise events. This was huge for me because I used to never speak in public or even in large family gatherings. I didn’t like to talk. I started to change, it was so powerful. Suddenly, I realised that I am beautiful inside and out. I have confidence. I can lead. I can look after my family. And everything became possible. Everything in my mind became possible and it just became easy after that.

I Started Raising Leaders

Now I have become a leader in my life and I want to do good and have impact. Even with my children, I know I’m raising my children to lead. Instead of telling them like I used to ‘why do you want to do that.’ But now I’m like, no, let’s go. Now I’m pushing my children. We’ve got to be leaders. Come on. My mindset has completely changed.

We are all Happy. I have a Happy Home.

This coaching journey with Sister Amina is brilliant, absolutely brilliant, one of the best things I’ve ever invested in my life. I now have a Happy Home. We are all happy. We enjoy spending time together as a family now. I am no longer a shouty mum and even after finishing the journey with Amina, a year later, I have not gone back to how things were. We will never go back there again.

Life Keeps Getting Better With These Tools

Even after the journey’s finished, my home is still growing. It’s still growing. It’s still getting stronger. It’s still getting happier. The journey continues. Once you finish, your journey continues and it improves everything in your life. This is a lifetime investment. You’re paying for life skills.

I knew I had to do this. I had to do this. Otherwise I was going to lose my child. I was losing my child. I had to do this. But absolutely, hands down, the results were even better, more than I expected. This is definitely a lifetime investment, I don’t think you can put a price on that.”