I love holidays. I love getting away. Even if it’s for one night. But now its for a very different reason than what it used to be for.
Before, trips away were the only way that we knew how to relax as a family and enjoy some quality time together. Whether it was because my husband and I would be free of our to-do list or because as a family, we’d have no other distractions or places to be, but we often went away for short breaks.
Initially, it would seem like we were a Happy Family but then the awkwardness would creep back in and we would just find other ways to escape each other, even if it was a travel magazine from reception. We were so raw from the trials that we’d been through and what we expected from each other. Soon we’d all end up secretly wanting to go home and go back to our busy lives.
The only way we knew how to function as a family was to keep busy. We loved being busy.
We managed to pass each other by and for most part, that was fine. But then as I’d feel the distance would be too comfortable for all of us, I would decide it was time to book another trip away.
How much did I spend escaping from our reality with short-term fixes? Tens of thousands, no doubt.
How much happiness and quality time together did we lose? Years.
What did it fix? A big fat zero!
Short term fixes allow you to pass time as a family, (as least the children are growing up). You’ll feel the illusory comfort of ‘it’s ok, we can be together and be happy’, but you’ll always live in fear of what will happen when the kids grow up and don’t want to fake it anymore. When they won’t want to spend time as a family because it’s just too weird. Mum and dad are not the same anymore,
Now I look back and I see that all we did was waste time and money. Time was the greater loss because you just can’t get back. Your children have grown up and that time is gone. When they remember the old times, they will remember some of the arguments they witnessed or how they hated those awkward family trips and how they escaped watching TV instead.
I escaped. My husband escaped. We all escaped. We lost time and we lost money.
So if you are worried about how expensive getting professional help is and that is what is holding you back from reaching out and joining me, I want to tell you that coaching is a fraction of the cost of the time and money you are currently losing. You won’t get back this time, whatever money you’re willing to throw at it, your money will have no value.
Don’t wait any longer my sister to resolve your family challenges.
Don’t wait for things to get worse.
Don’t think that just because you are coping and things haven’t broken yet, that it means you should settle for less and wait for worse.
You are losing time.
You deserve better and so do your family.
You work so hard for your family, you deserve to be happy.
But happiness comes from investing your time and money in creating long-term solution, not short-term fixes.
So don’t think of it as spending money. Think of it as saving your time and saving your money.
Once you invest in creating your Happy Family, here’s how life looks on the other end….
Now I live in holiday mode alhamdullilah. I’m always relaxed. Always enjoying quality family time even as I get things done in the house, or as we’re driving or as we stop off spontaneously at a cafe for a quick bite and a chat. I laugh and play with my family now alhamdullilah. Gone are my serious days. I’m now always smiling and giggling and so the entire mood of the house has transformed masha Allah.
Before we got there, I resolved all that had happened in the past. It was much quicker and painless than I thought it would be. I was able to repair relationships with my children and husband and vice versa. We stopped avoiding and as I lead the change towards actually resolving the issues, we all moved forward in a really strong way, alhamdullilah. Now my older children often say how happy they are that I sought professional help. They love how our family is now, alhamdullilah. You too my sister, can create this no matter how hard your challenges are.
With relaxing and laughing more, you would think that I’m probably not getting as much done. Actually, the opposite is true. I now manage five kids and a business with joy when before I couldn’t manage with three kids and no work.
Alhamdullilah I’ve become so much more productive now that I have stopped riding that old emotional rollercoaster where most of the days I would be stuck in my head. I would be having imaginary conversations in my head, figuring out problems in my head and dreaming of my next escape, again in my head :). I was here in body but not in mind. I was never present and always wanted to be left alone for a moment of peace but really so it could be so I could be in my head some more. I also spent a lot of time feeling angry at myself and at others. I wasted a lot of years and joy, on feeling angry. You too my sister can stop wasting your life in your emotions and start living a joyous life in reality.
It’s amazing how learning to lead your mind helps you to create a better life and better relationships. It also helps you to love your live and live your life. I wasn’t living my life before, I was a by-stander watching it unfold, unable to take it where I wanted it to go.
Now imagine everyday is a holiday for me, masha Allah. I am so grateful for this journey that I took.
So if you’re a Muslim Mother who wants to start enjoying her life and her family and you’re ready to invest the money you spend on short-term fixes on a long term solution and real happiness that lasts, then join my paid Happy Home Program and I’ll show you how to create a real Happy Family inshaa Allah.
