They run away to avoid the fight, they don’t want to fight with their children anymore so they run.
- Some run to their rooms and wait behind a locked door.
- Some run out of the door just to wait by the front door.
- Some run into the car, only to cry behind the steering wheel.
And a few actually drive off, but only to drive around the block because us mothers we actually can’t run very far without our children.
I have spoken to hundreds of mothers who are scared of reacting when they are in fight or flight, knowing that they can’t cope anymore, scared of what they might say or do, when their children are not listening or arguing back or fighting each other.
Scared of the impact of their reaction on their children when they lose control. They’ve been there and done that and fight mode was ugly. What comes out of our mouths we know does a lot of damage. Everyone is left shaken. It’s not worth it. So they decide not to fight anymore.
What’s left but to flight!
Run out the room, out the house, out the street, run because maybe then our children will realise that they’ve pushed us to the brink and we’re serious and they really need to start listening to us.
But all that happens when she runs, is she cries and they cry.
Damage in another way. Yes we’re able to stop things escalating and stop the outburst but withdrawing is only control over the outburst not over the situation. What we really want to take control of the situation and be able to lead our children to calm and happiness and resolve the challenges in our home. That’s our aim as mothers. Not to run.
But what else can we do but run if the alternative is to unleash on our children?
Well, we can learn to take control of the situation in a way that we remain calm and our children allow us to help them resolve the situation.
This is what I do, I teach my clients how to take control of their emotions and the situation to lead their children to calm in a calm way. This is Mastery; Mastery over Yourself and Mastery over Your Parenting. This third option is to choose Mastery.
I love Mastery. I try and master everything I do in life. It wasn’t enough for me to become a Calm Parent, I decided to Master the journey and become a World Class Expert in it so I could help others to do the same.
Fight or Flight? Rubbish, choose Mastery instead. Here’s how:-
Step 1: Join My Free Masterclass
I’m running a free masterclass at the beginning of January 2024. Over three short daily sessions, I’ll be helping you see what leadership mistakes Muslim Working Mothers are making that is sabotaging their parenting so you can be aware of what is causing you the parenting challenges you’re having.
This masterclass will also take you through the Parenting and Relationship Blueprint I use to help my clients with to create their happy home on my happy home program.
In the Happy Home program which is my paid program, I train my clients on how to lead themselves first and foremost to take control of their emotions and their minds, then how to lead to lead their children to success, and how to nurture the leaders in their husbands and children. Now they have a happy home and the family has been turned around in just a year alhamdullilah.
If you love the free masterclass, which I know you will, you will know that you will love my happy home program and how you will get the results you want.
Step 2: Join my Happy Home paid Program
If after the masterclass, you’re ready to come and work with me, don’t worry you won’t have to wait any longer. I’ll be opening enrolment for you to join the Happy Home Program in the same week as the masterclass. You can jump straight onto the program and start transforming your family, unlock your superpower in your home to lead your family to success. It’s going to be the best decision you’ll ever make.
So go and REGISTER for the free masterclass at www.happyhomecoaching.com/blueprint today as spaces are limited AND
GET READY to join me on the Happy Home program, because 2024 sister is the year you create your Happy Home inshaa Allah. The link to the Happy Home Program, the leadership program for Muslim Working Mothers is www.happyhomecoaching.com/transformation.
I look forward to helping you create your most amazing life inshaa Allah.
